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Dr. Boyce: Rappers and B*tches and Hoes, Oh My!
by Dr. Boyce Watkins
One of my greatest moments of pride was when the women at Spelman College stood up and told the rapper Nelly that he couldn’t come to campus after making a video in which he swiped a credit card in a woman’s b**t.  I thought that perhaps this was the beginning of something big, a way to let men know that black women aren’t meant to be disrespected by anyone.
You can imagine my disappointment and confusion when I look around and see women chanting the chorus created by the rapper “2 Chainz,” (who recently performed at Morehouse College) which says that “All I want for my birthday is a big booty hoe.”  There was a time when black men fought for an education.  There was a time when we dreamed about building wealth.  Now, all we dream about are big booty hoes and going to 2 Chainz concerts.  I’m not sure if this was the dream that Dr. King had when he was a student at Morehouse.
The fact that female fans can hear a rapper refer to women as b*tches and hoes and be firmly convinced that the rapper is talking about someone else is nothing less than utterly astonishing.  Sorry my dear, but the fact is that he’s talking about you too.  It’s not as if rappers get together and say, “Well, the respectable, sophisticated women are over there, and the b*tch and hoes are over there.”  This kind of differentiation takes too much time, so it’s easier to just put everyone in the same old pile – a lot of men I know don’t spend time sorting the darks from the lights in their laundry, and they’re also not sorting the respectable women from the b*tches and hoes.
Another thing that truly fascinates me is how, in the eyes of some women, it’s OK to refer to other women in a derogatory way, as long as he’s not talking about you.  That’s like my saying, “If a country music singer says, ‘I hate n*ggers,’ I only get offended if he’s talking about me.”  That comment wouldn’t make any sense.  If one of us is disrespected, then that applies to all of us.  I doubt that a white singer could get away with referring to white women as b*tches without being neutered in public by the National Organization for Women, so one might expect the same to be true for black women as well.
I think I’m getting to be old-fashioned, but I admit that there was a time when I was petrified of referring to women in a derogatory way.  I could never say, “I’m not talking about you ma’am, but b*tches ain’t sh*t but hoes and tricks (as Snoop and Dre said in their famous song).”  Obviously, as a father, I would never want any man referring to my daughters in that way, and the truth is that I wouldn’t want men referring to any man’s daughter in that way.  But hey, I don’t assume it’s my right to tell any woman what she should or should not accept; God-forbid any man try to impact a woman’s right to choose.  So, for those women who are offended that I take issue with rappers referring to women in a disrespectful way, I apologize for disrespecting you.
On that note, I leave you with prose by the great philosopher Lil Wayne in his song, “Alphabet B*tches.”  Perhaps we can call it “Ode to the b*tches,” since he seems to be referring to the females in his life who’ve had an impact on him since childhood.  Since I’ve become the bad guy (in the eyes of some) for stating the obvious, I’ll allow Lil Wayne to serenade his female fans in the manner to which they’ve become accustomed:
Wellll the A is for Ashley
she always ask for me to take it out her p*ssy
put it right in her a** and the
B is for Brittany she bright in the class and
she be hatin on Ashley ’cause she tight in the a**
The C is for Christina want me to big screen her
the way she d*ck kiss should be a misdemeanor so have you seen her
I been searchin but cant find her
ever since i been wit Diamond wit Diamonds in her v*gina
And the E is for ever elegant Erica
a sweet red b*tch
we used to call her Miss America
I aint gon lie now Erika is a dog
but to the that magnolia n*ggas she done f*cked em all, (Slim!)
Speakin of slim, the F is for Fat,
a real skinny hoe so you know
why they call her that
And the G for Gabrielle , you can call her Gabby
but all my homeboys seem to call her nasty (man)
Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition. He is also the creator of the Building Outstanding Men and Boys Family Empowerment Series. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

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